For the longest time, I have thought – that Finding Love is the ultimate goal. That falling in love and receiving love is the best gift there is. And that being committed to someone means – constantly staring at each other´s eyes.
Don´t get me wrong, Finding Love is really like that – butterflies in your stomach, wanting to be physically present to express your joy and affection, all that jazz. But… but… but… there is always a BUT!
As each day passes, I am learning and discovering that… finding love is not the end. It is only a “means”.
Loving is a means of living. What used to be just “waking up” now becomes “waking up inspired”. What used to be just “falling asleep” now becomes “falling asleep beside the one you love”. What used to be just a “successful day at work” now becomes an “accomplishment to share”. Being in-love offers a new perspective in life.
And though finding and committing yourself to love, offers a fresh set of eyes, the individual aspects of each person must remain. Nourishing these aspects is equally important as growing together in love. The trust and respect that is built enable the solid foundation for a sustainable love to grow up and grow strong.
Life is and will be a constant journey. The purpose – we may not have discovered yet. What I just know for now is that, finding love is not only meant to be like in the movies, where the “They lived happily ever after” sign is shown as the lovers kiss – then the curtains close.
I like it better to imagine – a scene staring at each other´s eyes, hand-in-hand and then staring forward and then moving together thru life in the SAME direction.